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Adaydreambeliever · 56-60, F
I think the younger generation, certainly in some countries are more forward than they used to be in my day.. my generation we still tend to wait to be asked rather than do the asking.. it's just how we were raised..
I think, in some countries, where there is a strong desire for women to return to a time when they stayed home and raised kids, or where they feel threatened by equality... then this can cause regression.. as in women again might be in the position of feeling they have to leave it to men to ask.. there are a fair few men, and we see them often on here, who would feel threatened and put off by women doing the running
I think, in some countries, where there is a strong desire for women to return to a time when they stayed home and raised kids, or where they feel threatened by equality... then this can cause regression.. as in women again might be in the position of feeling they have to leave it to men to ask.. there are a fair few men, and we see them often on here, who would feel threatened and put off by women doing the running
Spoiledbrat · F
No I think it’s because women know men like to ask. @Adaydreambeliever
@Spoiledbrat I'm rather hesitant with asking out.
Spoiledbrat · F
Why? @scooogy
@Spoiledbrat It's mostly in contexts where I tend to meeting the woman again on a regular base, which makes the prospect of a rejection quite threatening in a way.
Adaydreambeliever · 56-60, F
@Spoiledbrat well it's kinda the same thing.. some men would still be offended.. so we tend to sit back and wait to be asked..
@Adaydreambeliever ...yet you'd still reject guys in most cases?
Adaydreambeliever · 56-60, F
@scooogy well remember we aren't talking about me personally... but being asked doesn't mean you have to say yes.. someone once said men are attracted to 80% of women but women are only attracted to 20% of men.. it's not like, generally women are just sitting around waiting to be asked... many times it comes as a surprise!
If the boot were on the other foot so to speak.. would most men reject most women? Perhaps not.. see comment above.. if they think there's a free ride in it they are hardly goign to say no as long as she falls in the 80%.. but yes, of course men would say no if they weren't attracted...
If the boot were on the other foot so to speak.. would most men reject most women? Perhaps not.. see comment above.. if they think there's a free ride in it they are hardly goign to say no as long as she falls in the 80%.. but yes, of course men would say no if they weren't attracted...
@Adaydreambeliever But aren't there differences as in when a female would stop seeing a guy? Like they'd at least go for a coffee or something?
Adaydreambeliever · 56-60, F
@scooogy wasnt sure what you mean by stop seeing a guy? I think most women would not want to lead a man on.. I read a post on here yesterday.. the guy felt the woman was using him.. wanted just friends.. and he didn't like that.. so many guys might feel it was misleading if she went for coffee with him.. they might then feel used or hard done by if she said thanks for the coffee but I wouldn't want to date..
Personally i see nothing wrong with going for a coffee.. but I do know from past, (lol when I was a bit younger and less ollllllld) that when I met men for coffee, they did tend to think I was up for more - just saying.. or maybe they were just being opportunistic... no harm in coffee, movies, etc.. but there's a line and I wouldn't want to use someone who hoped for more
Personally i see nothing wrong with going for a coffee.. but I do know from past, (lol when I was a bit younger and less ollllllld) that when I met men for coffee, they did tend to think I was up for more - just saying.. or maybe they were just being opportunistic... no harm in coffee, movies, etc.. but there's a line and I wouldn't want to use someone who hoped for more
@Adaydreambeliever I thought that my crush would have talked about me to her boyfriend's sister right after her female cousin told her I'd have a crush on her.