boyfriend hasn't responded to my texts in 11 hours but replied to my social media in 2 minutes, would you be upset?

@Vivaci Well of course I'm worried. We haven't had sex in over a month and he's stopped saying i love you.

@wolfess Like the song says, the thrill is gone. Get busy and find something to do so you won't dwell on this.

@wolfess Try to cook his fave food and wear something sexy tonight....😉

@greenmountaingal I've been busy all day.

@Vivaci We don't live together and he's gone, out of town

@Vivaci We don't talk on the phone. Ever. I've told him I miss him, and he got mad at me. We're having issues and he's making us wait until he gets home. I've been giving him space, haven't texted him in 11 hours. I've tried to be understanding. He's acting like he's going to break up with me- stopped saying i love you. stopped texting, short responses and being distant.

@wolfess Find a new hobby. Learn a new language. Develop a new skill. Take up Chinese brush painting or metal detecting or volunteer on an archeological dig. When he gets in touch, tell him you miss him, but you've been very busy. The more you cling, the further away he will go. Being in love typically lasts from 6 months this to a year and a half; it is never permanent. After a while it fades or it grows into a long term partnership. It seems to be fading. There is no magic that can revive it, but you will seem more attractive and interesting to him if you get on with your life and get involved in something. And it will take your mind away from dwelling on feeling abandoned.

@greenmountaingal I have been busy all day. I've told him I miss him and he GOT MAD AT ME. I'm not clinging! I've texted him once today and he hasn't texted back!

@wolfess As rude as it may sound right now, I think greenmountaingal has a point. You stay busy in your job, and give him time to rethink if he's having any doubts. No use clinging to him, if all he needs is space right now. Just keep yourself so busy that you don't have enough spare time to worry bout him. Go and spend the rest of your day with your sister or friends. It'll give you time to unwind as well. And please watch a movie or something so that you don't have to talk too much...just relax.

Remember....

[quote]if you love a person, set him free
If he comes back to you, he's yours
If he doesn't, he never was![/quote]

Testing time.
Relax.
Work.
Watch movies.
Manicures.
Pedicures.
Massages.
Hair treatments.
Icecreams.

And send him a pic of you doing all these things....
With a SWEET SMILE!

😉

@Vivaci Like I said, I've LITERALLY texted him once today. Once. I haven't texted him since. This is space. I've been incredibly busy today, lmao...

@wolfess Yayyyyy!!! That's the right thing to do.

Just take a chill pill girl! 😎🥂 He's going nowhere!

@Vivaci Actually I highly doubt that. Lol. Pretty sure he's talking to his ex fiancee again and so onviously i'm worried. ugh

@wolfess He is distancing himself from you for whatever reason. He is being a jerk. He is pushing you away. Of course you feel bad. I don't mean to sound unsympathetic. I can see where you would feel sad and rejected. But you only make it harder on yourself by fretting and worrying. You have done nothing wrong. He is just losing interest, maybe for a while, maybe permanently.

Go online and find the story, "A Telephone Call" by Dorothy Parker. It was written a long time ago, long before today's technology. While you might not be as sad and desperate as the woman in the story, I think you will be able to relate to it although it is two generations old. Waiting and worrying is not a good plan, either for being a happy person or for making yourself attractive to him. Unfortunately, most of the time, love is not forever.

@greenmountaingal Yeah, I know... I'm trying not to worry, i've been keeping myself busy on purpose

@wolfess Well, if he's going back to his ex, then I'd slam the door on that man and say, "good riddance". 🤨

You can certainly do better. Trust me.


If you have any doubts, then you just call him n ask.

@Vivaci I've been having doubts lately. I've expressed those. He got defensive and we had a fight. So now i have to wait for him to get back home, in like a week.

@wolfess all right then. Stay positive.
Focus on your tasks in hand.
Keep yourself busy...you know best how you can.

Try to paint or draw something for him.... something that'll make him happy.

I wish you the best!! 💙😘

Don't worry, I've got a good feeling about this. 🤗🌹