What are some signs that a person is a narcissist that you have learned?

@RemovedUsername329422 I can spot a narcissist a mile away. I get rid of those pretty fast anymore. Sorry you have one for a wife. They are very difficult people to deal with.

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@RemovedUsername329422 Yep, that is correct. Everyone else is nothing and only they are worthy of everything. And they make everyone know how great they are. lol. They drain the life out of me.

@GoldButterfly: Yeah, me too. But I still LOVE her, and wish that she’d come back. However, it’s been 20 months & I know that it’s never happening. When you are in love with a narcissist, the more you give, the more they want.

@RemovedUsername329422 Yep and you will have to give until you are drained. Sad but that is how they work.

[@GoldButterfly: And this is the “double bind” that I put myself into. When you’re married, you do things for your spouse & the family. Help around the house, take care of the kids, pick them up from school, grocery shopping, laundry, blah, blah, blah. It’s just another part of the routine & you think nothing of it. You just do what you gotta do to make the household run. And as such, we BOTH run here & yon, and tackle what the next day brings. And after it’s done, you forget about it & move on to the NEXT thing on the list. But THEN, when dealing with a narcissist, they always tell you what THEY’VE done. And you’re like “Ok, that’s GREAT. Thanks for all that you DO, as I certainly appreciate it.” And they continue with what THEY’VE done & how GREAT they are. And then you’re like, “Ok, well I’ve done a bunch of that same stuff as well.” And they’re like, “Well you haven’t done AS MUCH AS ME.” And if you try to highlight the things that you HAVE done, that’s when they’ve got you in the double bind. Because then they tell you that “You are only being defensive.” LOL. If I had KNOWN that she was gonna “keep score”, then I should’ve “kept score”. Lol. But I don’t think like that. A relationship is NOT about “keeping score” of what one has done or not done. It’s about LIVING a happy life & making things work. I could NOT care any less, if she EVER acknowledged the things that I DID. Just don’t bash the hell out of me about the things that I DIDN’T do, so that she could make herself look superior.