Honestly if he can't take you into his home there are some fundamental issues at work. You say he's been getting high, do you like getting high too? Does he ever want to get high with you? I love getting high with people I care about. I usually associate drinking with depression though. I'd work on finding an excuse to make him bring you to his place.

He sounds kinda absolutely awful in almost every possible way.

You sound like you are drifting apart. Until he makes the effort to close the gap, you will see less and less of him.

I really hate to say it, but it sounds like Ben is pushing him to ditch you, now.

The warning signs are there: proceed with caution.

Let me ask you, is there anything anyone here could actually say that would dictate what action you take?

Talk to him, voice your concerns. Open communication and trust are a must for any relationship to last.

It sounds like a train wreck, tbh. Trust your instincts. If you sense something’s not quite what it seems, you’re probably right. 😒