What is your advice to me?
My boyfriend and I have been together for 5 months, we’re super serious about each other and when we’re together he makes me feel like the happiest person in the world. We’re quite communicative and both independent, as well as loyal.
However I haven’t seen him often lately, he just moved and then went out of town for work for 2 weeks straight. Now he’s headed out of town again for a cousin’s wedding that I wasn’t able to go to.
He has bad texting habits, combined with sketchy service and being busy, I don’t get to phone him or facetime. We have only ever texted. And a handful of times each day. He often takes hours to respond.
I haven’t been intimate with him in over a month. The times I saw him last (two times) he’s taken me on a date since we haven’t seen each other much. I live with my parents and he lives out of town so I haven’t been to his new place at all. He also sounds very self conscious about it as it’s a cheap place, I think he’s avoiding taking me there.
In addition to that I’m kind of worried about his room mate, Ben. Ben broke my boyfriend up with a previous girlfriend- actually one my boyfriend was engaged to, apparently she was toxic (I can’t confirm this. My boyfriend was totally distraught, he says he doesn’t know how accurate Ben was, and blamed himself.) Also, since moving in with Ben, my boyfriend has been getting high almost every day, as well as often considering getting drunk. I feel pretty distant and kind of on edge. I feel like i don’t really know what’s going on in my boyfriend’s new home life, and he’s avoiding taking me there. I’m not really suspicious as my boyfriend and I aren’t having any real issues, but I feel... not involved.
However I haven’t seen him often lately, he just moved and then went out of town for work for 2 weeks straight. Now he’s headed out of town again for a cousin’s wedding that I wasn’t able to go to.
He has bad texting habits, combined with sketchy service and being busy, I don’t get to phone him or facetime. We have only ever texted. And a handful of times each day. He often takes hours to respond.
I haven’t been intimate with him in over a month. The times I saw him last (two times) he’s taken me on a date since we haven’t seen each other much. I live with my parents and he lives out of town so I haven’t been to his new place at all. He also sounds very self conscious about it as it’s a cheap place, I think he’s avoiding taking me there.
In addition to that I’m kind of worried about his room mate, Ben. Ben broke my boyfriend up with a previous girlfriend- actually one my boyfriend was engaged to, apparently she was toxic (I can’t confirm this. My boyfriend was totally distraught, he says he doesn’t know how accurate Ben was, and blamed himself.) Also, since moving in with Ben, my boyfriend has been getting high almost every day, as well as often considering getting drunk. I feel pretty distant and kind of on edge. I feel like i don’t really know what’s going on in my boyfriend’s new home life, and he’s avoiding taking me there. I’m not really suspicious as my boyfriend and I aren’t having any real issues, but I feel... not involved.
22-25, F
