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Are these toxic traits?

Ridiculous question I know. I’ve never been told I’m a toxic girlfriend but that doubt is still in my mind, haha. Been having a rough go of it lately and so has my boyfriend so both of our behavior has changed- things between us are still good.
Sometimes when he doesn’t respond for 2 or 3 hours I’ll check in again, shooting a text to ask him if he’s okay or what he’s up to. Always out of worry, I do trust him.
Sometimes if his responses change dramatically, I’ll ask if everything is alright between us.
Sometimes I have doubt about whether or not he’s cheating- I know logically there’s no justification and i never ask him or accuse him of anything, but I still feel bad for having some doubt.
Sometimes I feel a little self conscious about how well he gets along with my sister, even though he’s only met her once he’s said to me that they hit it off immediarely...
I think it’s just insecurity am I right?
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If you feel something's wrong, there is something wrong. Your insecure behavior will drive him away. The best way to handle situations like this is not to let your worries and thoughts fester, don't obsess over it and make your woes the central focus of every interaction. Choose a time you can sit down with him and have a straightforward conversation. Tell him exactly what you wrote here, and whatever else you think could be constructive, but try not to put him down.

Why mention cheating, by the way, if you don't think he's guilty of it? Have you had bad relationship experiences in the past?

If you feel he's pulling away from you, do not chase him, it will only drive him further from you. Control yourself, take care of yourself, and if he's actually interested in you he will be sure to show you. But you may need to give him some space for a while.
wolfess · 26-30, F
Yeah, bad past relationship. He’s not pulling away, and I’m not letting them sit and fester. We are super communicative. @lovelywarpedlemon
@wolfess sounds like you've got it all figured out then