Do you go Dutch when you're on a date or should the gentleman pay?

@Spoiledbrat If THEY take you out as THEIR treat then of course THEY should pay that is just common sense.

It sounds to me like you resent ever having to pay. @SAandME

@Spoiledbrat Interesting, people are really good at thinking they know someone they have never met these days 😱

You said it so stop deflecting. If you wanted to spend time with someone and get to know them, you’re pursuing them. Therefore I think this person should pay up. @SAandME

@Spoiledbrat Do you understand English, is it you first language 🤔. At no point have i ever said i resented paying and make your mind up one minute you say "sounds like" (assumption) and the next "you said it" (fact)

Then why did you stop? What else am I supposed to think is the reason you stopped paying. @SAandME

@Spoiledbrat As i just said i stopped because women changed not because i did.

I would have most likely let you. It depends on how I felt about you and where I thought it would or lead. I wouldn’t want to be “indebted” to anyone. But if someone pursues me and I want to let them I’m going to think it rude for them to not pay. After a dating phase or for dating meetups I think it’s okay to pay separate tabs or take turns. @SAandME

@Spoiledbrat I have decided as you wanted to know not to leave it at the brief answer. After i long time married i suddenly found myself single again in my late 40's, after a period of time getting my head back together (and with encouragement from friends & family) i decided to try dating again. I was still old school wanting to pay for the date however i was soon put in my place, the first date told me quite bluntly she had a well paid job and was able to pay her way. The second was more polite telling me she would prefer to go Dutch but the third totally laid into me for trying to pay. I can not remember the whole rant i received but it include she was not some mans puppet, she was quite capable of paying for things without needing a man to do so and that i was a chauvinist pig for even thinking i had the right to pay for her. After that i suggested going Dutch at the start of a date or even before when we chatted online. However as i am now back in a relationship it is no longer an issue but you asked a question here so i answered with how i now think.