What would you think here?

Separated from husband last April, both have new partners. Yesterday he posted a photo of our 7 yr old cuddling up to his girlfriend on facebook and saved it as his profile photo. We are not yet divorced.

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CharlieZ · 70-79, M

Legal divorce haves, perhaps, no real importance if you both have new partners. That´s, IMO, the real thing, right?

If he is using the kid to bother you, that´s not good.
But the fact that he makes it his profile pic, seems to point to better purposes.

But, mainly, as you will always be your son´s mother, you will be also happy that the woman that loves your Ex, also haves a caring affection for the kid.

Best wishes.

Jenni855 · 36-40, F

@CharlieZ Thanks, I just think he is using our kid to prove a point about how much better this woman is than me as a mom

CharlieZ · 70-79, M

@Jenni855 "...a better mom" and that known since...April?
Let it be.
You and your Ex share a parent´s job for a long time ahead. Is it 50 / 50?

Please, consider that your son haves both parents there, for him.
And if your actual partners, from both sides, are loving ones, the kid will have a good extended family.

My three daughters, when kids and teens, had for all purposes, only one, me, a single father and not a woman´s figure in their lifes. Their mother was not "available".

Best wishes for all of you, and specially for your son.

Jenni855 · 36-40, F

@CharlieZ Yes 50/50 but my ex despises me and thinks his girlfriend is the second coming of Christ

CharlieZ · 70-79, M

@Jenni855 🤣
And why not?
I bet that you also think that your BF is soooo much better than your Ex! All includded.
So, everybody, the four of you, wins.

Let the kid also win.

Hugs.