Ex posting photo of our kid and new girlfriend together

@DoubleRings She definitely does see herself as a new mommy 😐 and I know my ex wants that too

well, i mean, can’t expect him to be alone forever. people divorce and that’s what happens. sometimes what you see in pictures is based on your own heavy interpretation. When my ex left and dated someone new, i watched on fb how they seemed to be happy, redid his whole house with her and for her. got engaged and it hurt me too. but then it all fell apart - he dumped her because apparently he wasn’t as happy about everything as it appeared to me.

This relatnsp is young. When i think about how i felt about my current partner at 10 months compared to now, 3 years later it’s not the redemption i thought it was after the last break up. that’s for sure. everyone has an ugly side.

@DoubleRings He treats her like she is a saint and is always talking about how our child dotes on her. It's like she craps rainbows.

i thought my husband shits rainbows till i learned sometimes he shits ON the rainbow. @Jenni855

@DoubleRings He always lands on his feet and this will be no different. I know they will be together for life and she will be seen as his saving grace, its the way his life goes.

Not necessarily true! I thought the same of my ex! now he’s lonely and depressed and turning into an alcoholic when he was a fitness-loving go getter no one could stop right after we broke up. Girl no one knows the future! She might even get fed up with HIM!@Jenni855

@DoubleRings Can only hope. He certainly has a lot of irritating traits but because she has had it hard in life she is desperate and so has low standards. Just don't like the idea of her 'healing' him and my son.

You’re really jumping the gun with a lot of assumptions and conclusions. @Jenni855 Just take it day by day. He has a fb picture up. So what? She’s a flawed human being - Not the Second Coming of Christ. She doesn’t “heal” anyone or anything. She’s a person just like you. What other people think of her you or the situation is not anyone’s business except their own.

@DoubleRings I know how he thinks and what he wants which is for her to be his sons new mommy as he thinks I am not good enough. Because this woman has had a hard life, everyone thinks she is a saint who has come along at just the right time. Believe me, she gets treated like the second coming of Christ and like she is their healer. It is souldestroying.

it’s soul destroying because you allow it to be. She is a [b]human being[/b]@Jenni855. it doesn’t matter what you think he thinks or wants or what he actually does think and want. It has [b]nothing[/b] to do with you. even if your RIGHT about what he thinks or wants, it doesn’t make you any less of a person, or a mom and it doesn’t make her better than you! You are listening to the whispers of your imagination and you are taking it all personally too. Stop. Because noting anyone says does or thinks has to do with YOU. It has to do with them.

Given the relationship between us though I do feel its a dig at me.
I had an affair. I regret it but its done now. I do think this is my ex's way of revenge and getting back at me.

ok so i was right. part of this has to do with your guilt. you have to forgive yourself for that - even if he doesn’t. your conscience is reinterpreting this whole situation for you. @Jenni855

your guilt is talking to you. you need to find a good counsellor to help you process all this. it’s not easy. this is about more than a photo of your ex with his gf and your son. This is your guilt saying “i caused this. this is my fault. i deserve this.” and maybe even “he will do better than me because i was not good enough to him”

PS i think you still love him too. and having a son makes it even harder

Get to a counsellor to help you process. s/he will likely tell you a lot of what i’m saying.

@DoubleRings I don't still love him, I love the man I had an affair with. But I regret my actions and I know I need therapy to stop these feelings of feeling so threatened by her although I know my thinking is correct

The thinking even if it is correct like i said doesn’t matter. it’s irrelevant. if it’s a dig, it’s a dig. So what? You get to navigate the course of your life including your feelings. You’re not a victim here. You are in control. And if you don’t love him then that makes it even easier to put your hurt feelings aside and move forward. .