My boyfriend doesn't feel the same about me, how do I know when it's time to break up?

My boyfriend has been with me for 3 months, and things have been wonderful. it's the healthiest relationship of my life, and i really want, and see, a future for us. I'm willing to do anything for him, and I love him- and he's told me he loves me too. But, he's also had a couple times where he's been cold and distant because he isn't sure what he wants. Now he says he's happy with me but sometimes he just wants to be alone. It's becoming clear that he doesn't feel the same about me. I thought he was the one. What should I do?

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SW-User

If you want something badly you have got to make it work unless it’s unhealthy , abuisive or toxic or he’s cheating or doesn’t respect you. There’s nothing wrong with him wanting his own space , we all need our own space from time to time just to make things stay healthy and so we have something new to talk about when we see each other again. It doesn’t mean he doesn’t love you , it doesn’t mean he’s going off you , it just means he wants time to enjoy things he likes doing too.

wolfess · 26-30, F

@SW-User It's not the space thing... it's that he completely withdraws for almost a week every few weeks. Makes it seem like we're going to break up. Says he's not sure about things, and what he wants. We don't live together and we have a lot of alone time.