My boyfriend doesn't feel the same about me, how do I know when it's time to break up?

My boyfriend has been with me for 3 months, and things have been wonderful. it's the healthiest relationship of my life, and i really want, and see, a future for us. I'm willing to do anything for him, and I love him- and he's told me he loves me too. But, he's also had a couple times where he's been cold and distant because he isn't sure what he wants. Now he says he's happy with me but sometimes he just wants to be alone. It's becoming clear that he doesn't feel the same about me. I thought he was the one. What should I do?

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LucyFuhr · 56-60, F

People "love" in different ways but regardless of the type of relationship it is, when the "cost" outweighs the "benefits" (regularly), it's time to consider other options.

Ask yourself how long you can (realistically) live with things the way they are.

🤗

wolfess · 26-30, F

@LucyFuhr Not long, lol. Things are so great for a month- better than ever- but then he'll have like, a week long period, of being super distant and "not sure what he wants" and "i'll tell you when I know" and totally withdraw and act like we're going to break up. And it hurts, a lot.

LucyFuhr · 56-60, F

@wolfess I totally understand.

You didn't ask for advice but I'm going to give you some anyway LOL Talk to him about how you're feeling and be honest, even if it's painful. Give him the option of realizing what he's got and then do what YOU need to do.
(If you haven't already.)

Keeping my 🤞 for you.

wolfess · 26-30, F

@LucyFuhr No, I appreciate the advice. I at least know what I have to say, lol.

LucyFuhr · 56-60, F

@wolfess In that case, glad I could help 😉 LOL