My boyfriend doesn't feel the same about me, how do I know when it's time to break up?

My boyfriend has been with me for 3 months, and things have been wonderful. it's the healthiest relationship of my life, and i really want, and see, a future for us. I'm willing to do anything for him, and I love him- and he's told me he loves me too. But, he's also had a couple times where he's been cold and distant because he isn't sure what he wants. Now he says he's happy with me but sometimes he just wants to be alone. It's becoming clear that he doesn't feel the same about me. I thought he was the one. What should I do?

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MissMollyCharlotte0702

Give him space. 3 months is still in the beginning and he may feel stifled. Go out with friends, spend time with family, focus on your hobbies and work. If it’s meant to be it will work out, but you need to slow down and not mention that he is the one until much later.

wolfess · 26-30, F

@MissMollyCharlotte0702 He shouldn't feel stifled... he's made every move. We don't live together. He said I love you first.

MissMollyCharlotte0702

Maybe he has a mood disorder as you said sometimes he’s cold and distant. If he says he sometimes needs to be alone then that is what he needs. Do you see each other every day?@wolfess

wolfess · 26-30, F

@MissMollyCharlotte0702 No. We live apart and only see each other once or twice a week. We both have friends and work lives, seperate.

MissMollyCharlotte0702

If he’s unsure...then tell him to call you when he’s sure. He’s wasting your time being wishy washy. At 3 months you both should be enjoying each other’s company. When you are together what do you do?@wolfess

wolfess · 26-30, F

@MissMollyCharlotte0702 We switch it up between hanging out at his place, watching "our shows", and going out on dates. Our time together is really enjoyable, and we don't fight often. But then there's these phases of "I'm not sure what I want." "I'm not sure what's wrong," and frankly as much as I love him, it's exhausting to be worried about a break up all the time. I want security- I don't need committment or a certain future yet, but I want him to be all in, and sure about ME.

MissMollyCharlotte0702

Time to sit him down and tell him figure out what he wants.you know what you want and are tired of him giving you the run around.Tell him to call you when he’s ready, but he better not take too much time as you won’t wait around forever. @wolfess