i fall in love with a guy

but there are two things, one is he's never been to school more than elementary and second is he doesn't smell like he's bathing very often.
but he knows so many things about nature and he communicates so beautifully with his eyes and movement, and he laughs like a child and makes me feel like a child too, and well i don't know what to do with that.
i'm educated which create some distance as the subjects we can communicate get specific, though with everybody the subjects are specific anyways. I totally do not want to hurt him so i think i will try and keep some distance.
but he's so beautiful in so many ways.
i just wanted to share this little story.

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cherokeepatti · 61-69, F

Someone needs to take him aside and tell him to clean up. If he makes excuses he’s probably just lazy. Some people will get offended and not do it or they will take it to heart and clean up every day. Probably better to be good friends at this point, doesn’t sound like you are matched...and you may resent him if you make a commitment and he isn’t keeping up to your lifestyle or expected earning.

MakeAspirit · 41-45, M

@cherokeepatti hi I'm not being critical but your not suppose to live up to anyones expectations . That would make the other person really unhappy . Otherwise your a run around . I nearly went off my game trying to live up to a persons expectations that I loved a lot ( holidays - money - brand new car ) all outside things and she still wasnt happy . I nearly got a nervous breakdown from it if I'm totally honest

cherokeepatti · 61-69, F

@MakeAspirit I know that but the man could at least clean up.

MakeAspirit · 41-45, M

@cherokeepatti 😂😂😂. Very good . 😂😂😂 .

MakeAspirit · 41-45, M

@cherokeepatti do you know if you dont shower for 2 days . The oils on your skin gets pure cause if your showering everyday it washes away the oils . That's a fact

elafina · 36-40, F

i also think it's not that he's lazy rather than he is used to that @cherokeepatti and he also finds it more natural this way. I cannot and wouldn't like to try and tutor anyone regarding that as, if someone else tries for example to make me wear perfume everyday while i'm used to my natural smell and i hate perfumes, it would seem to me as something more dirty than clean. I think it is something similar for him too.

cherokeepatti · 61-69, F

@elafina there’s a difference between being natural and being stinky. Not using soap & water to clean up is unsociable. I’ve heard that natural excuse before and it doesn’t fly with me.

elafina · 36-40, F

@cherokeepatti there is a difference indeed, thank you :)

cherokeepatti · 61-69, F

@elafina they took the fifth-graders and had a class about basic personal hygiene this year at the public schools. About bathing regularly, using deodorant, changing socks etc. They wouldn’t find a need to do that if parents were communicating these things to their children and making sure that they do it. Kind of sad.

elafina · 36-40, F

@cherokeepatti thanks for pointing out that about the parents. kind of sad indeed

cherokeepatti · 61-69, F

@elafina kids will come to school smelling like cat urine or pee sometimes, I worked part time in a little elementary school office when I was going to high school and that was 45 years ago.