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Should I feel guilty for not being in love with someone who's in love with me?

He's a great guy and he's been in love with me from high school until now. No matter what I say or do he continues to hold out hope, but I just don't feel that way about him. I don't want to sound harsh or conceited and I feel really bad but I just don't want to settle for someone who I only have mediocre feelings for.

This has been really bothering me because I see him agonizing over me the only I've agonized over someone I love and I feel like its my fault for not being clear enough. But I can't think of any other way to say I'm not interested without being plain mean.

But is it better to be really really mean just once than to have him continuing to waste years on me? Even when he was in other relationships he made no secret of his feelings for me. And I look like the bad guy.

Sorry had to vent.

Advice?
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no - as you age your standards will drop anyway
coffeedimplez · 26-30, F
@MarmeeMarch Hmm why do you say this?
@coffeedimplez because it is true - when you are younger you can be picky but when you age you will most likely take any man. Look it up. You can block me if you want.
@MarmeeMarch not true. I have constantly had to raise my standards due to total disappointment. I am better off alone with my cat than to be obligated to someone that has too little capacity for love.
@Anonymartyr Well said sir. Thank you
coffeedimplez · 26-30, F
@MarmeeMarch Why would I block you?
@coffeedimplez IDK - I am just asking