Would you reconsider dating someone

Who leaves the house at midnight to run away from a hailstorm, so that it would not hail on his car? He left me and my daughter at the house to protect his car. My daughter was scared of the storm. I spent the evening consoling her. For some reason I felt abandoned by my boyfriend. Normally a decent guy. I’m kinda embarrassed to be asking this question.

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There are ALOT worse things a person can do. If he wasn't in your life, would your daughter be less scared?

I think if you're asking this question, this isn't the first time you felt you weren't a priority in his life. So, if I were you, I'd ask myself if my life is better off with him or without him? And, does he fulfill your needs as a partner should?

Mindful · 56-60, F

Thank you Harry. I do need to ask that question. He’s someone to hold at bedtime.@SW-User

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@Mindful So, he's just filling a need you have but otherwise, he's not really someone you want in your life 24/7?

Mindful · 56-60, F

I’m used to a man who can help out financially, so I’m struggling with whether or not I’m okay being a “sugar mama” for a man who is my age in that he can barely survive because of his divorce and self employment that barely enough. When I support him, and he just leaves like that, I feel hurt. But he does t make much money. Been like this 5 years. I thought his business would be doing better by now@SW-User

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@Mindful Ah, I see. So, what's happening is that you're getting more and more disenchanted with him and, whether it's conscious or not, your looking for reasons to get out of the relationship. Bottom line is, he isn't capable of giving you what you require from a man in a relationship.

Just a suggestion for you....make a list of Pros & Cons for yourself about him. If the Cons outweigh the Pros, you know what you have to do, no matter how upsetting and disruptive it may be. It's not fair to either one of you to hang onto something that's just not working the way you feel it should.

Mindful · 56-60, F

Harry Rides the Guru Bus@SW-User

Mindful · 56-60, F

I made a list. I found in it something I had not realized was a semi serious problem. I ended up sharing THAT problem with him first and then the most recent ones. We clarified our interpretations, he helped me see what he saw and heard, we even laughed at the way he reacted to the hailstorm —based on some clever advice someone had given him earlier that day—Park your car under a brick car wash . The other issues are issues but he’s accepted and made some promises to improve. He pointed out the positives in our relationship and offered me a percentage of the company he is starting which I am not accepting at this time but it made me feel more valued that he offerred. He expressed deep gratitude and offered apologies.He responded in ways that made me calm down that’s hard to do. Lol thank you for your advice [@idolovemostofyourthoughts]@SW-User

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@Mindful I'm truly glad I was able to be of some assistance but I'm really very very happy you took the bull by the horns and chose the right way of handling things and, he responded in a positive way! Communication really is the key. Congratulations! 🤗