When you tell someone you love them, do you love them how you want to, or how they need you to?

@Zelllambert I don't think I've ever experienced that. I tend to give my love sincerely, quite easily, if I let someone in my heart. It takes a lot to get there, but when they are, I love with all of my being. To get that in return is very rare. I've yet to experience that either.

I've not been able to feel love for many years and struggle with feeling empathy but I understand that I should feel things I'm just unable to.

@Zelllambert I used to be able to say that to people and mean it, but after an experience i had i'm unable to reach that level of admiration/feeling for people unless it's platonic.

@Ryannnnnn have you tried counseling? I've been and it helped so much and I need to go back desperately. Sometimes a different perspective can make such a difference in how you see things.

@Wurkoutgurl I did at the time, had a lot of anger and resentment around a relationship I had.

I'm all past it now, I just have more of a wall up towards that intensity of emotion i think. But I think that's good, I was too naive and vulnerable at the time.

@Ryannnnnn being vulnerable is what allows you to love and be loved. I had a wall up for a long time. I loved that wall, I was safe, I was protected. I could go out on dates, get what I needed and never worry about being hurt because it was all on my terms and there were no real feelings involved. That wall was my best friend! But at night when I was alone it got pretty lonely behind that wall...

@Wurkoutgurl Yeah, I guess I'm just not at the point where I wanna be with anyone. When I meet someone I imagine i'll be able to feel that again, i just haven't met anyone since that's made me want to be vulnerable.

I'm happy atm anyway 😌 appreciate the wisdom ✌️

@Ryannnnnn glad you're happy, That's most important!