Fed up with her

Looking back I think I involved my sitter too much in my marriage break up. I confided in her a lot and cried many a time on her. She was a great support. All that seemed to change when I met a new partner after a month of being separated.It wasn't planned but felt very right. My sitters behaviour changed to being very distant. When I asked her what was wrong she admitted she was concerned as it was so quick and we spoke and sorted it out.

About a month ago after 6 months of dating, I introduced my kid to my new partner, again my sitter seemed very distant and couldn't look me in the eye. I texted her yesterday asking if there was anything she wanted to talk about as she is so eager to get out the house and cant look me in the eye and she said she doesn't want to be seen as the bad guy but has concerns. That she knows she is not family but can't help how she feels.
I feel annoyed now. She is wonderful with my kid but I am not doing anything wrong. Thoughts?

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SW-User

You never confide in, or become friends with the hired help. But, since you have, I dont understand why you're fed up with her. You've asked her to be honest with you, and she has. You can't condemn her for that just because you aren't happy with her responses. That's extremely unfair of you. She appears to be worried about both you and your child. Be grateful she cares about you both. Sometimes, we can be too close to a situation to see that something might not be right for us, but others who aren't emotionally invested can see the problems as clear as day.

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SW-User

@Jenni855 So, if you think she's overstepping, find a new babysitter.

Jenni855 · 36-40, F

@SW-User I will. Just annoyed.

SW-User

@Jenni855 I understand. It's never easy to dismiss someone you cared for and considered a friend, especially if your child loves her. And, finding someone as caring about your child as she is, isn't going to be easy. Keep the next sitter relationship on a purely business basis.

Hdryder555 · 61-69, M

I think I agree with her that you are jumping into an other relationship too soon. A lot of times when we rush into an other relationship we tend to fall into the same kind of relationship we just left.