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A potential date that never messages first

So, met this woman on a dating app. Seems cool, though occasionally standoffish. Seem to be some sparks between us when we message each other.

I asked her last week if she'd like to meet sometime, she said sure, maybe next week.

Thing is, I am always the one initiating contact. I thought to myself that I should wait for her to contact me this time with regard to setting a date to meet up. Here we are on Friday, and nothing.

My mind is telling me that it's not worth pursuing the matter by breaking my own "rule" and sending her a message asking if she's still up for a date.

Should I trust that instinct of mine?
JammieDodgerHeart · 26-30, F
Lol she may be thinking the same as you. I realize I never really make first contact either, I think it's because we can get into our own heads and don't want to be too bothersome, but just ask away. It's better than regretting not contacting at all. What's to lose?
Obsidian · 36-40, M
@JammieDodgerHeart The last 3 words of your post resonated with me in particular. I don't have anything to lose really!
JammieDodgerHeart · 26-30, F
@Obsidian Good! Go for it :)
Doomflower · 41-45, M
I can't tell you. She may be like me and insanely shy despite being amazing.
Obsidian · 36-40, M
@Doomflower Good point. I've gotta get past my own insecurity and just take the chance.
Doomflower · 41-45, M
@Obsidian that's a good attitude. She may also be socialized to believe the woman shpuld not be the one initiating dates and stuff. She may want you to chase her a bit. IDK. Let us know if you find out!!
Obsidian · 36-40, M
@Doomflower Will do!
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LyricalOne · F
How many times is “always initiating contact?”
Obsidian · 36-40, M
@LyricalOne At a guess, over the last 3 weeks I've started a conversation with her around 6 times. We'd chat throughout parts of a day or two.
Caprice · 41-45, F
Go with your gut
DarkSideoftheMoon · 31-35, F
Follow your instincts
Obsidian · 36-40, M
She'll let me know when she's free. Hmm. Well, the ball is in her court now! 😁

 
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