initializing

im not like a nagging girlfriend type and i dont wanna be becuz thats just a unnecessary argument between a guy and a girl but im interested to see ur opinions on if im being stupid to actually care. do other girls feel the guy should take initiative on everything - like picking a date and talking to u with messages/calls/in person - or like i said is it just bitching about something thats not a big deal? by him not initiating do u think he doesnt care or its not saying anything at all? is it to [i]the guy[/i] that its not a big deal or am i the only feminist about it?