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Qwerty14 You can motivate someone into being a better person, support them and be there for them. You can manipulate them, lie, take away what they desire to change them..Two different ways, one is bad, the other is good.
Love doesn't equal accepting character defects or not wanting them to grow and be better. But you have to go about it the right way.
But to me it seems to be the wrong way already. There is little point in telling an outsider that their bf is work in progress. It is disrespectful.