Is my work crush....flirting with me?

sooooo I started this job and he started a couple of days after me. As soon as I saw him I thought he was cute but we didn’t talk for a while. I’m assuming he’s just as shy as I am. Fast forward a week or two and now that we’ve been working together for a bit, he’s more comfortable. Always teasing me and singling me out from everybody else. Don’t get me wrong, he’s friendly with everyone....but me, just a little more...? The banter between us is great! You could say I’m crushing.....But another big detail, he has a girlfriend. She lives out of town. He doesn’t mention her often and the only reason I know he’s in a relationship is because I’ve heard him briefly talking about it to someone else. He’s never directly mentioned her to me. (Not that he needs to..) It’s hard for me to tell if he’s flirting or not and I don’t wanna be that person but I low key think he is...He doesn’t compliment me or touch me in flirty ways. He’s just very playful with me and it confuses me cause I’m the only one he’s like that too... I sure as hell don’t flirt with him... I’m not one to initiate things and especially not things like that. I’m only responsive to others...maybe he’s comfortable around me or just friendly! And that’s that.

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greenmountaingal · 70-79, F

Your interest in him, and his in you, indicates he likes you and is flirting. Many men like to have a girlfriend or two on the side. Some men like to cheat on their girlfriends; after all, he is not married to her (and even marriage doesn't always stop people from cheating).

You have to work with him. If you two get involved, it can get complicated with your job. And he already has a girlfriend. These are two excellent reason to NOT get involved with him.

Yes, he is obviously interested in you. And the interest you've expressed here sounds like you're interested in him as well.

Don't get involved. There is too much potential trouble here.

If you really want to get involved with him, consider that most relationships don't last. Wait it out and it is likely he will break up with her.
And most jobs don't last; it is likely a time will come when you will both be working elsewhere. But until those changes happen, please consider the advice of an old chick who's been around and knows the game and avoid any kind of romantic involvement or even the appearance of it..

Sb356 · 26-30, F

@greenmountaingal definitely. I'm not thinking of getting involved at all unless he's single. Since he isn't I'm not worried about it. I would never do that to anybody and I wish him the best in his relationship. If they break up, they break up. If they don't, they don't. Plenty of fish in the sea :) I just wanted to know if it sounded like flirty from others perspective and not my biased one lol

jenmil · 22-25, F

Time will tell. Some people are just friendly. To bad more aren’t

SW-User

He has a gf. Don't be a homewrecker.

Sb356 · 26-30, F

Never that! I’m not the kind and never has it crossed my mind. I’m a respectable individual and I respect others. I’m just curious and it kind of bums me out if he is flirting. As you can see in my post I said “I don’t flirt with him.” @SW-User

SatyrService · M

out of town gf? nope dont go there, unless he is in the clear.
sometimes flirty fun is just that! i have those in my life.
but dont get hooked up

Sb356 · 26-30, F

Yeah, I’m not going to go there. I’m really not trying anything with him at all. I’m just curious if he was or not. @SatyrService

SatyrService · M

@Sb356 well men often "hedge their bets"

I gotta girlfriend, but you know something can happen

other fellows are always "feeling around" to see if this or that one might be a playmate

OR
maybe it is just harmless fun flirting
I have that in my life too

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