I think men can certainly be confusing
But I don't think this is based on gender but rather the people you are intimate with. They sound like they are users and not very considerate and that's why it's best to be intimate with someone who hasn't been in your life for a while, because it's hard to know their intentions. Only with someone who truly cares about you...
If someone truly cared they wouldn't leave
Biologically, women are more emotional and want to have an emotional connection, but men are more systematic and they do things by taking action opposed to talking out feelings etc so it can be hard to read them, I'm not saying men can't be very emotional but women tend to show it more, that's why men and women always fight -- men are from mars and women are from Venus. We are wired differently lol
I noticed you are married which may be part of the problem, that's very messy and I don't think people want to stay in a situation like that. I sense that you are a littlr lonely and longing for a connection, which can sometimes mean we can feel there is one with somebody when there really isn't, because we want that.
I think talking to your husband about how you're really feeling is the best way to go... I think sleeping with other men will only increase the damage you're doing to your soul and marriage
Also showing yourself that love you look for in others will help
Hope things improve
All the best
*hugs*
