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My crush talks too much about his ex...

They were like the most popular couple in college, and people keep throwing gossips and lies about their breakup.
So I get why he'd like to clarify stuff.
But he has been going on about how toxic she is and how it was shit for 2 hours.
( I'd rather be talking to him rather than bored to death with this breakup story over and over again, and relationship stories )
They were a thing for 3 years, and broke up like 6 months ago...

Like now I'm genuinely scared...He says he is interested in me and stuff...But I don't wanna be a rebound...
There is a possibility you could be a rebound but you could also be the best thing that ever happened to him...

I suspect he just needs to get it out of his system by talking about it. It doesn’t sound like you guys are in any kind of a committed relationship yet so just feel it out for now, be a good listener, take this opportunity to learn about the mistakes in his previous relationship.

Be yourself and good luck!!!😊
He still loves her
StevetheSleeve · 31-35, M
Talking about your ex and the breakup is a no-no. Six months after the fact is exotically lame.
ArwenPandora · 26-30, F
@StevetheSleeve but he blocked her everywhere...
The heck is wrong
StevetheSleeve · 31-35, M
@ArwenPandora He hasn’t blocked her out of his mind.
SW-User
@StevetheSleeve ☝️ YES THIS!!!!
Reject · 26-30, M
If you don't want to be a rebound, then I would suggest not getting with him. He still has some growing to do and it could be a while before he understands better ways to handle these things.
TeirdalinFirefall · 31-35, M
Yeah he's going to end up with her as soon as they apologize to each other. Relationships like that always go through that.
SW-User
He knows she's toxic but he isn't over her. Tell him to let her go or let you go.
Chaoshead · 22-25, M
Tell him to shut up about it or get-out. 😤
princero · M
It could be a massive red flag. I think a brief talk with him is warranted ... explaining how you feel about him going on and on about it like this.

3 years is still a long time for a relationship nowadays. I would count it as a major thing to clear up before diving too deep in this new fling
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Anon066 · 31-35, M
Big red flag
Eternity · 26-30, M
I mean he is just unloading. But I get it you're not there for his emotions lol. You there for that D.
ArwenPandora · 26-30, F
@Eternity that's the thing.
Idk if be trusts me so much he allows himself to unload stuff he doesn't tell people.
Or if he really did not move on
Eternity · 26-30, M
@ArwenPandora cant speak for him but if I'm telling you emotional shit I trust you.

I just dump my emotions on anonymous online forums.

In real life I stay stoned face.

I expect to catch a stress stroke in my late 40s early 50s lol.
I was with my ex for 3 years and it took me a lot longer than 6 months to get over it. Just saying. 6 months later even if I was genuinely interested in somebody else it would have been hard to prevent myself from talking about her. I'm not the type to use a rebound because it's too close to addictive behavior and I'm not an addict and don't ever want to become one. But god help me I wouldn't have been able to shut up about her.

Thankfully those days are a distant memory. I barely remember a god damn thing about her or what it felt like.

it took me at least 2 years to recover.
SW-User
He's not over her.. has unresolved feelings...
ArwenPandora · 26-30, F
@SW-User he just blocked her tho
SW-User
@ArwenPandora and he could unblock her too..
SW-User
He hasn't moved on yet
Primnproper · 56-60, F
Well I'm not sure I'd rush into anything with him after a 3 yr relationship breakup, 6 months is not really enough time to deal with it, he still sounds pretty caught up in it whether it's anger or hurt..
I have 0 fucks to give about any of my exes anymore. Thank lilith.

They can all go pound sand for all I care.
MysterySci · 22-25, F
Awwe,I feel you. :(

 
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