Am I wrong ?

My girlfriend and I are thinking of building a new house....

Am I wrong for suggesting to get an agreement made to protect ourselves as individuals in the unlikely unfortunate event that we go our separate ways in the future??? I brought it up today and it really hurt her feelings, which is NOT what I intended to do.....I feel awful....I got the "we need to talk" message 😕

Her professional job, she has a pension...

Me, I'm a grainfarmer and have assets worth 7 figures

Both of us acquired what we have before we met each other....

Opinions please

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Heartlander · 80-89, M

There are different reasons for why you would go your separate ways besides just breaking up. One being that one or the other would die. And that may be complicated for the surviving one of you. Mix in the consideration that some judge may consider you common law married, regardless of how you define your relationship, and it probably gets pretty complicated, legal wise.

Laws differ from state to state. And even if you research your own state laws we don't always get to pick where we die.

So .... think of it as looking after her best interest in the event that you die.

PoetryNEmotion · F

@Heartlander Now he just has to CONVINCE her of this. I think he likely presented it in the wrong way. I know a man who did this too with his wife. Was a disaster. Now his wife is very upset and untrusting and disappointed too.