Am I wrong ?

My girlfriend and I are thinking of building a new house....

Am I wrong for suggesting to get an agreement made to protect ourselves as individuals in the unlikely unfortunate event that we go our separate ways in the future??? I brought it up today and it really hurt her feelings, which is NOT what I intended to do.....I feel awful....I got the "we need to talk" message 😕

Her professional job, she has a pension...

Me, I'm a grainfarmer and have assets worth 7 figures

Both of us acquired what we have before we met each other....

Opinions please

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Ynotisay · M

Of COURSE you have to protect yourself. So does she. That's business. It has nothing to do with emotions. Just like marriage. The feelings may get you to the point of wanting to share life together but the court sees marriage as a business contract. Nothing more or less. And a WHOLE lot of people realize that too late.
Let her know that couples who enter in to prenups have longer lasting marriages. That's true. It's because the people involved are seeing the realities and not the dream. Same thing with this property. Work it out in advance. Sell the house...split it 50/50. One of you dies? You know where the property is going. It's just wise and alleviates a potential problem so you can enjoy the home together without some weird pressure attached to it.

Mongoheadmonster · 41-45, M

@Ynotisay..... Yes....but women are emotional creatures....difficult to get my point across no matter how nicely I try to explain it

Ynotisay · M

@Mongoheadmonster I understand. I think the trick might be to calmly let her know that why it's the best for both of you. You're making a 'team' decision. That's how partners operate. As a team. Good luck.