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Would you like to be part of an experiment

I propose that two people (a gender compatible paring) cannot message each other for a minimum of 3 times a day for month without falling in love with each other...

I’m open to any comments, opinions on changes, if you think two months or more times a day.

Similarly any volunteers, I’m willing to do it but if I can get two Volunteers that would report back to me daily on progress than I will go with that too. I understand given my previous posts most people will suspect this a trick but it’s not.

One proposed Boundary or rule would be:

No pictures? I’m thinking I want to remove any chance of physical attributes ruining the experiment.
TexChik · F
Ha. I speak to a couple of my friends on here that much .., hasn’t affected me or my Marriage or their marriages . Maybe you should add in the need to be single too.
Rumplesmoothbottom · 36-40, M
@TexChik ooohhhh this is interesting! So your main stance is that it won’t work? Do you think it’ll be a flop like won’t work at all, but what if it’s two months or three?
TexChik · F
@Rumplesmoothbottom first let me say my arguing with you is in no way meant to be crass or disrespectful. 😉.

I’m saying not everyone would be a suitable candidate. Your premise that two people would fall in love after 90 contacts just isn’t practical . I’m saying I love my husband more than my own life , I am in love with him , and that no amount of texting with someone on social media is ever going to change that .

Now if your hypotheses stipulated the volunteers to not be married and not in a romantic relationship ... then you might have a chance at maybe 10% falling in love from 90 social media interactions in a month. Falling in love Is not an autonomic response to limited stimuli .
Rumplesmoothbottom · 36-40, M
@TexChik a fair criticism. I think you’re right... current “availability to love” for want of a better term is definitely a contributing factor. I get it now.

But I don’t think that limits it to people who are married. I think that’s where my confusion came in. Because I don’t think that because someone is married means they are necessarily unable to love someone else.

However I do still believe that there MUST be a point that even the most devoted such as yourself (with all due respect) could not help but fall somewhat.
CharlieZ · 70-79, M
@Rumplesmoothbottom The experiment sounds interesting.
Cos my personal emotional situation I doubt I am qualified for volunteer without a bias.
I would like to follow how it goes, even so.
CharlieZ · 70-79, M
@SW-User Got it and thank you for your honesty to me and specially for your loyalty for your lucky partner 👏🏻.

I´ve said, previously, that I may be a biased case as volunteer of this experiment.
I´m not in a relationship of any kind, actually.
But, almost three years later, there are persistent memories that still haunt my mind and emotions.
SW-User
@CharlieZ I would still put yourself forward. You don't want to miss put on some happiness and at the very least I suspect you'll make a good friend!

It hard to get over past relationships. I'm someone who is quite sentimental and clings to emotions.
CharlieZ · 70-79, M
@SW-User Thank you, kind lady.😊
I´ll stay open.
Miram · 31-35, F
How do you come to decide it's love? Or do you think of love as synonymous with attraction?
If this was an experiment in psychology, that'd be the biggest criticism. Defining love.
Miram · 31-35, F
@PeachyK Exactly, and those definitions change as we age, the relationship ends, we get hurt..etc..

@Rumplesmoothbottom And that's why it will border on pseudo-empiricism. Not good in human sciences. Not measurable, not definitive.. Love= what they say they feel. It is like all studies that count on attitudes. They are best done using a scale.

It can be a qualitative study.
Rumplesmoothbottom · 36-40, M
@Miram definitely, but I wasn’t really thinking of it being quantitative at all, it was mainly for my own amusement, so if people want to label it as qualitative study (which I totally agree it would be) then they are more than welcome.

But what do you think of the outcome?
Miram · 31-35, F
@Rumplesmoothbottom Oh, I think I answered most of that in the original question. Attraction will happen.
SW-User
This should be funnnnn 🤗
Rumplesmoothbottom · 36-40, M
So you’ll give it a go? I still need a volunteer! @SW-User
5thApprentice · 31-35, M
Rumplesmoothbottom · 36-40, M
Popcorn popcorn? @5thApprentice
SW-User
@5thApprentice lol you would be a good volunteer
MartinTheFirst · 26-30, M
There was a study done where people sat down in a room and asked each other 100 questions. More than 50% left as couples
MartinTheFirst · 26-30, M
@PeachyK Probably quite general, like about their interests and such.
Rumplesmoothbottom · 36-40, M
@MartinTheFirst yeah but I mean for my experiment... they should ask a question a day
MartinTheFirst · 26-30, M
@Rumplesmoothbottom oh... well you could try
SW-User
I want you to hurry and find 2 volunteers and I want updates on the progress
Rumplesmoothbottom · 36-40, M
Me fudging too! @SW-User it could be amazing!
SW-User
@SW-User Me too!
SW-User
This is absolutely fascinating!

I think there's a lot of variables to it working. If they didn't get on it could be painful for one participant.
If like me, they struggle to message people frequently it could fall apart into nothing while they were busy. One person might really have to force themselves to keep it going.

However, I hypothesise that they would more likely be really good friends than nobody to each other by the end. (So long as they were open enough to talk about more than the weather.)
PeachyK · 100+, F
I love your social experiment!
Rumplesmoothbottom · 36-40, M
@PeachyK sounds fun right!! Can you think of any more rules?
PeachyK · 100+, F
They have to stick with it a whole month. Even if they don’t like each other at first. 🤭@Rumplesmoothbottom
Rumplesmoothbottom · 36-40, M
@PeachyK yes!! In fact it may be more interesting if they DONT like each other to start with??
CharlieZ · 70-79, M
Interesting....
Rumplesmoothbottom · 36-40, M
Right!! @CharlieZ help me out man! Any thoughts or feelings?

 
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