How to have a healthy relationship with someone who has a PTSD?

I really want it to work, I adore her so much.. BUT I find it so difficult to not to feel overwhelmed. Any tips or pointers?

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anythingoes477 · M

Yes....walk away. That sounds harsh but she cannot care for you as long as she cannot cope with herself. Outside forces simply complicate the situation for both of you. Let her seek help--professionally. Then when she has her shit together---start over.

Tinkerxbell · 46-50, F

@anythingoes477 Thank you - I wish I could do it easily. But, matters of the heart can be so complicated.

anythingoes477 · M

As an ex soldier i can tell you that you will go thru hell and possibly even be in danger until she conquers her demons. Let her heal. Stay around the edges but you are not doing either of you a service complicating the problem even further. Just saying. Wanting her while she's "needing" something else is selfish of you. Just being honest.

Tinkerxbell · 46-50, F

@anythingoes477 Thank you so much for your kind advise. I will let her heal and walk away. :)

anythingoes477 · M

@Tinkerxbell I'm glad you took it as "kind". I meant it that way. YOU deserve happiness just as much as she needs to heal. PTSD is a bitch. it takes time to get past--sometimes a lot of time--and the less distractions she has, the better for her. In the meantime you are safe....and I am not exaggerating that you could be in harm's way. Perhaps in the interim of being away from each other you both will find what you need.....from other directions.