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How to handle my husband?

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My husband moved here for me from another country 5 yrs ago. I discovered that he has many anxieties and insecurities doesn't like to mingle with anyone at all and on top of it is extremely lazy, childish and selfish. Sounds bad but those are literally every bad thing about him. No job in all this time.No remorse for not working. Doesn't clean without lots of fussing. This affects our romantic life. I don't want to tarnish his image by telling anyone so many details about our situation in real life. I'm so isolated in this situation. He loves me and now he is trying to work on some business that I purchased but even that is like more burden than help most days.
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eMortal · M
I think the job thing has to do with his "real" qualifications and education. He does not have a recent job experience, if he's been unemployed for 5years.
If you're in US, take him to unemployment centers. They sometimes have free training courses that could help him get a professional certification. Having a job or going to school are good ways to fight social anxiety.
REMsleep · 41-45, F
@eMortal Thanks. I've tried getting him into community college. He very reluctantly agreed then after I took off work to walk him thru the counseling, degree plan registration process he said he couldn't do it. 2 year degree was too long to sit with classrooms of strangers. He started online classes as a compromise but stopped those as well wasting my money. Like I said right now he is concentrating on a business that I purchased but, even though I'm happy that he is doing something but this does not bring in money yet. It costs money and his spending ideas in the business can be a bit unrealistic to me. He says that if my business goes well then he really has no plans to ever work. I feel kinda defeated by that idea. He believes that because he is working in my business now that he has finally done his part. I can't see him the way that I want to see my husband because of these things that he says and does not do. He is trying but I feel that it is too little. He says if we have good money and we are happy then why should I care who or how the money is made. He is ok to remotely assist in my business cuz he can be alone often.