How to handle my husband?

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Hopeless situation?

Just needs work

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My husband moved here for me from another country 5 yrs ago. I discovered that he has many anxieties and insecurities doesn't like to mingle with anyone at all and on top of it is extremely lazy, childish and selfish. Sounds bad but those are literally every bad thing about him. No job in all this time.No remorse for not working. Doesn't clean without lots of fussing. This affects our romantic life. I don't want to tarnish his image by telling anyone so many details about our situation in real life. I'm so isolated in this situation. He loves me and now he is trying to work on some business that I purchased but even that is like more burden than help most days.

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REMsleep · 41-45, F

He is not " knowingly" trying to be a user. He really is just slow to action. Started school, stopped school due to anxieties and laziness etc.. He is really a very nice person,just is missing maturity. He is working hard at one my business for past few months but gets upset if I treat him like employee and with budget concerns in business. I need to start family. This situation isn't my ideal. I'm ok to "wear pants" if I have to just need support.