Why do i still get shccked by men killing their lovers? I know it happens all the time now but it still shocks me.

It's really strange. Take this 'Colorado' guy, for example. Everyone thought he was the 'perfect husband' . No one had an ounce of criticism for him, and one day out of the blue he kills his wife and kids, and then goes on national TV to plead for their return.
Sometimes you have to search the forest for trees that don't sway with the wind. Those are the widow makers.

God grant this world insight and discernment. Amen.