so..i wanna know if i am wrong or i am right..or

if i just need a little help with a fresh new perspective is all
my ex just got a hold of me i think 2 weeks ago.or 1 week ago and he sent a very lengthy text message that was very sweet in one aspect and a little questionable also
so this one is the guy i dated for 2.5 years who was the crack addict..mind you he was for 17 years. and i dealt with a lot from him and yet did what i could to tempt to try to help and in the mean time it took its toll on me with every aspect of the relationship that it affected(effected lol i swear i will always have difficulties using those right lolol) anyways it ended in mid march officially and besided trying for two weeks in march he basically has been gone since first of january.
so to my point. he claims he is clean and sober which would be great if that is true! here are the things that concern me as far as the difficulties i have in believing him.

he is staying in a camper by his friends house which is also his boss...by the way this is the friend he worked for when we met and was friends off and on since we were togeher always complaining he didn't pay him however this guy did crack as well. they were friends for several years tho. and his guy does thirsty thursdays every week. This ex when he wanted to use and leave for 2 or 3 days or even more he would run back to this guy. yet complained he didn't pay him how he should. i never got honesty from this ex and i shouldn't really assume but my guess is this money he never got was really used for drugs and maybe his "friend" would front him and therfore the ex didn't get the money cause it was used elsewhere so he needed to use that as a reason he didn't havae money.

ok should i believe him when he says he is off crack and has been clean knowing he lives with this friend of his and works for him again and claims this friend also does not do drugs anymore either?
basically he thinks i need to quit looking at the past and i let the past overwhelm me and this guy doesn't do drugs and he is sick of hearing about this guy. etc. etc.
he just seems to think i need to take him by his word where i feel if u care so much about me and wanna be with me and love me like you say why in the hell would u even try to think calling me while u live there and work for him should convince me ur off drugs? is this wrong of me to think this way or should i take his word he is clean and absolutley done with drugs?

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Lackwittyname · 51-55, M

I would not take him for his word, I would have to see that he was clean for an extended period. That aside I would not even want to get back in a relationship with him, just would not be worth it. Be friends, be supportive, but be wary as well.

michgirl75 · 46-50, F

@Lackwittyname I feel that way...not take him for his word.
don't wanna seem uncaring if he really has put effort in quitting however hanging around someone that he did drugs with isn't the way to go for trying to stay clean no matter how ya look at it. probably out of convenience as far as a place to live but I see other issues as well. his friend will defend him to the end and ly about his use more like say he isn't even if not true. he can work for this guy and never lose his job while doing drugs..so yeah he will say anything just to keep the lifestyle going!!! if he is telling the truth sucks for him because who would believe him!!? idk.

Lackwittyname · 51-55, M

@michgirl75 Exactly, he has burned his bridge with you and believability. Fine if you want to be a friend if he is asking for support to go clean, otherwise I would have nothing to do with him, he will just suck you back into what you have gotten out of.

michgirl75 · 46-50, F

@Lackwittyname I believe your right!! he usually comes back to me when something doesn't work out where he is whether it be his parents or sister or this friend and even myself. if something isn't right he leaves me. living in a camper is not a good sign either. if he is clean he should have his own place I feel in my opinion. so something isn't right with that picture either!!

Lackwittyname · 51-55, M

@michgirl75 Yep, definitely not right. I can understand living in a camper if he needs to save up to get his own place, but overall he just sounds like a messed up person that cannot bring anything good or positive to you.

michgirl75 · 46-50, F

@Lackwittyname I guess that is true on maybe saving for his own place but his ways that I have known I can't even give him that as the reason.

Lackwittyname · 51-55, M

@michgirl75 All the more reason not to engage with him, the relationship is broken if you cannot trust.