Do you think pleasuring yourself while fantasizing about someone else is a form of cheating?

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SW-User

When you're fantasising about your partners best friend or people it's possible to hook up with, it becomes a fine line between fantasy and cheating. Enabling it, and giving these fantasies a direction can get dangerous. But only becomes cheating once boundaries get crossed.
When you're fantasising about anyone random, I'd say it's just a fantasy.

Spoiledbrat · F

What are the boundaries. Sexting, watching porn without your spouse? @SW-User

SW-User

@Spoiledbrat I would say couples set their own boundaries. There is no one set fit for all.

Spoiledbrat · F

Fantasizing about someone you know? @SW-User

Spoiledbrat · F

What if they don’t because they didn’t foresee any of these things interfering at any given point but it does. @SW-User

SW-User

@Spoiledbrat Then I suppose it would be a good time to discuss when it happens and take it from there. I think people have a good feel for their partners and what is acceptable or not even if unspoken.