I'm on the verge of a break up and there's nothing that can ease the pain.

I invested so much in this relationship.. the most painful part is to realise that even though we haven't broke up officially yet but there's nothing left to call a relationship anymore... This person cares about me but they don't have time or feelings left for me. They said that they'd like to work things out but how can you make someone love you when they don't. It was becoming completely one-sided. This person has emotional issues and they don't want to seek professional help. Infact it was me who helped them realise a lot of repressed stuff which was affecting them. They feel that they are happy being passive in every situation, even in our relationship. And i tried to work around that for so long but now it seems like a burden. I can't live in this grey area where I'm committed but to a robot. It breaks my heart that i had so much love to give but they don't require it. They're an emotional cactus that can thrive without any affection. But why did fall in love with them in the first place? Because perhaps there was a glimpse of someone in them who was expressive and affectionate once. But now they're not that person anymore. Atleast not for the time being. This person happens to be jealous and insecure because of a bad past. Sadly, the only time i feel wanted is when they're insecure about me... It should not be this way. I can't rely on their moods and unhealthy mechanisms for this relationship to sustain... But this is such a blow to my self esteem. The only person ever who said they loved me has no love for me. I know it's less about me and more about them but it would have felt good to see someone caring enough to fight for you instead of being comfortable being passive.