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I'm a Production Assistant in scripted television, I live in Los Angeles CA. I'm still a PA so I don't make much money. Anyway, my gf invited me to San Diego with her last weekend. We had such a great time, but because I have basically no money I didn't contribute very much. I split the bill at lunch, she paid for dinner, I paid for the drinks at the bar that night, she paid for the Uber back. Anyway, I'd like to help more, I'm just paying for a lot like rent (rent in LA is NOT CHEAP), car payment, car insurance, phone bill. You know, bills. I just felt kind of bad earlier because I suggested we go to Vegas next month and she said: "I'm down to go to Vegas if you feel like you can financially contribute to the expenses". Made me feel way bad. Anyway, She always wants to go out and do things which is fun!!!!! I just really don't have the extra money to ALWAYS do those things. I'm not sure she understands "adulting" she lives at home with her parents, she's on her parent's car insurance, her car is paid off, and she has no bills but a phone bill. Also, she's at my place 85% of the month EVERY MONTH and I never asked her to pay rent. IDK maybe I wrong I get that I should help more. I just want her to understand things.
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I think you need to point out to her that you don't have the same support she does at home. Maybe slow down on the trips and have some staycations.
Ynotisay · M
From what you said I can guaranTEE you she doesn't understand 'adulting.' If she's around your age and living with her parents? Yeah. I'm sure she likes to go do fun things. And that's because there's no hard things to do.
If she's a friend you should just be honest. You work hard for your money and have expenses. If she's your partner then you might want to have a different conversation.
The fact that you dropped some cash on drinks in bar on a PA salary in LA (where I also live) tells me you're definitely bringing something to the table. So no...you shouldn't feel like you need to help more.
dealingwithit10 · 31-35, F
@Ynotisay Thank you, makes me feel better.
Tryingtofindabalance · 36-40, M
Hmm... is she your age and still lives with her parents?
Tryingtofindabalance · 36-40, M
@dealingwithit10 yea... so she has no idea about real life... is that what you want out of the relationship?
dealingwithit10 · 31-35, F
Tryingtofindabalance · 36-40, M
@dealingwithit10 than it sounds like you don’t need us anymore... lay it out to her, and see if things change
She needs to grow up a bit
YoMomma ·
Well you shouldn't suggest trips if you can't pay for them

Change the locks on your house and don't give her a key
dealingwithit10 · 31-35, F
@YoMomma I could pay my own way to Vegas, she just assumed I couldn't. Thank you.
Goralski · 56-60, M
D more you know
Sadwithasmile · 26-30, M
@Goralski romantic
Goralski · 56-60, M
Sadwithasmile · 26-30, M
MrAboo · 36-40, M
Try directing better shows for starters.
dealingwithit10 · 31-35, F
@MrAboo LOL I'm not a director but thank you

 
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