What does this mean?

Alright, so if you have saw my questions from the past few days, you'd know that I was asking about a guy.

Well, there is an update I wanted to ask about.

Despite him telling me that he's not ready for a relationship because he's stressed out about his 3rd year at, he is on 2 different dating sites. (Mind you, he was nothing but sweet to me, treated me right, never asked for sex, asked me to be his girlfriend..etc) I approached him about the dating site, and he told me that "he's going through different thoughts and emotions right now" and he's "not sure how to feel." He told me he's never been in love before. But he also said that he's on Tinder to help his ego, BUT he's not interested in casual sex.

Is he just a dick? I'm probably best without him, but I have genuine feelings for this asshole.

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SweetMae · 70-79, F

He isn't ready for a serious relationship. Find someone that feels lucky to have someone like you.

Looking

The word immature is springing to mind.

lauriethecolourful · F

@Looking That's what I thought too. He seems like he has a lot of growing up to do. I don't want to be in a relationship with someone like that, even though he is very mature in other areas in life.

DreamyCrush · F

Save yourself from heartache and MOVE ON! He already stated he is not ready for a relationship, so do not waste your time!

EugenieLaBorgia · F

Dump him! There are plenty of good men - excellent men! This one you describe is a user, a manipulator! His 'sweet talk' is about as convincing as a bus tour around the moon!

SW-User

Maybe tell him, you don't want to be a girlfriend to a guy who's actively on a dating site

lauriethecolourful · F

@SW-User Oh he already broke up with me... kinda. He just sent me a message and said "I'm not ready for a relationship with being in my final year of university. " He ignored me for about a week before that. :/

Subsumedpat · 36-40, M

It is not complicated and he has already admitted it, he is not ready to commit to you or anyone else in a relationship. You are in a different place and maybe should just tell him that it is best for you to be without him because of that.

Teggy

Your screwed.

We wants to keep you but also doesn't want to be tied down.

He wants all dem ladies and you 🤔🖤

He's genuinely not ready to lock down. I can vouch for that.

lauriethecolourful · F

@Teggy You know, that makes sense. He used to say things like "you're mine" when we were together. I thought it was sweet back then, but now it seems a bit posessive.

Teggy

@lauriethecolourful that sucks I'm sorry you gotta feel this way I hope you find something to help you move forward

lauriethecolourful · F

@Teggy Me too. Heartbreak sucks.

IWasCallingYaLarry · 31-35, M

I don't think he is ready to settle down. Also, he doesn't deserve you. You'll find someone better :)

SW-User

I wouldn't say he's a dick, he's exploring options, and at least he was honest saying he's not ready to be tied down. I'd explore my options if I were you

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