I need some assessment on a situation.

Okay, am I tripping out of my mind? Basically I'm talking to this girl, she's basically my gf now and we only text because she doesn't like talking on the phone. She used to reply very good in the beginning and now that we're official, I notice if I reply not within that second she'll take very long to respond, and always longer then my wait time. My last text, it took her 1 hour to reply. I know what y'all are thinking, I'm acting crazy and she's probably just busy but like I said she replied differently before and when I asked her what she was doing she said getting ready to take a shower, then I asked what "Were" you doing then and she gave me the same exact answer about getting ready for the shower. Call me crazy but I'm beginning to think she's having some egotrip or egospell where she's trying to make me wait long to see if I either text over my text or just to do it. I'm not sexist but I do believe women love their ego rubbed and this is certainly a way to do it but it's making me frustrated. She already doesn't like to talk on the phone which is fine I guess but she's not consistent as she used to be and she's just home, and usually when she's home she'll text just fine because she barely does anything if she is home. I don't get it. Am I missing something here? I'm trying to get an honest assessment on this, no rude comments, they'll get deleted. I just want answers. Am I just being crazy or is there a possibility she is intentionally doing this to feel more desirable or to get the upperhand and make me say something to polish her ego, like "hey were you busy?" I guess if that was her intention it worked because I texted saying she seemed busy, which I shouldn't have done because now I feel like if she is doing it on purpose I just fed into whatever she's trying to do.

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SW-User

Very often, girls are taught to reply late so as to not seem desperate so be direct and talk to her about it

justicexoxoxo · 26-30, M

@SW-User It's so frustrating. That's some immature ish though. I'm too grown for this kind of stuff. She's 19, I'm 24 so I was very hesitant to be with her in the first place just off of that but she has certain immature qualities about her and this is certainly a red flag. I still like her but this is so stupid.

SW-User

@justicexoxoxo Yeah as a 20 yo I know how different it feels to talk to people even an year older 😂
Tbh I don’t think it’s a red flag unless you talk to her and she still continues with this behaviour

justicexoxoxo · 26-30, M

@SW-User But if I talk to her about it I feel she'll deny it and try to make it seem like I'm possessive or crazy and I'm not. I feel she wants me to do that just so she can polish her ego. I think confronting her about it is exactly what she wants me to do. It's her asserting her power in the relationship. I'm not going for that bs.

SW-User

@justicexoxoxo But you need to tell her to stop playing games with you, how else would you gauge her reaction?

justicexoxoxo · 26-30, M

@SW-User True. I don't know. Maybe I'm tripping but I just have a gut feeling that tells me , like my intuition that maybe just maybe she is trying to do it on purpose just to make me wait longer.

SW-User

@justicexoxoxo Yeah many girls, and even guys do it to seem like they’re busy and important

justicexoxoxo · 26-30, M

@SW-User It's stupid and childish. I basically confronted her just now over text. I didn't straight up ask but I basically said when I sent that text , you were gone for an hour, I thought you fell asleep "lol." Clueing her like I want to know what she was doing at the time. She keeps bringing up showering once again. smh Now it really raises red flags about this.