Why is "cheating" considered "bad" even if you never plan on leaving your partner?

Okay, scenario, you're dating someone, they go away for a while, you sleep around, but in the end you NEVER plan on leaving your partner, and when they come back you'll stay with them and ONLY THEM until the end of time.

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Specialyouare · 31-35, F

I agree with all you say. First of all human nature is not naturally monogamous. Monogamy is clearly taught. So I support people being free to have sex with whoever they want, and take care of themselves of course, and I love the idea of friends with benefits. But here is an interesting scenario: Sometimes my friend with benefits winds up getting a “real” girlfriend and then screws me over and doesn’t even respond to my texts. Now that, I don’t like. Be free but if you are my friend, be kind to me, treat me like I have worth as a human being and like our interactions were meaningful. I agree with you, sex should bring friendships closer, not further apart. But alas, human nature, unpredictable as fuck. Thank you for your posts and sharing your mind!

ManicMicah · 22-25, M

@Specialyouare I've been broken up with by my boyfriend who had been in rehab, five days after he got out. I waited two months and he screws me over like this. I've been just having sexual encounters casually, and just a week ago I met an ex fwb/bf. We hung out for seven days, we're practically an official item. He was arrested for carrying drugs (which weren't even his) and he'll be in jail for who knows how long. I don't plan on waiting for him to be happy. I'll find someone else. But as soon as he's out, if he still wants me, he'll end up getting me.

Specialyouare · 31-35, F

@ManicMicah You deserve the best life has to offer. You are important and worthy, and your life with your words, feelings, sentiments, and action make a greater impact than you realize! Thank you for being you!