Why is "cheating" considered "bad" even if you never plan on leaving your partner?

Okay, scenario, you're dating someone, they go away for a while, you sleep around, but in the end you NEVER plan on leaving your partner, and when they come back you'll stay with them and ONLY THEM until the end of time.

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SW-User

Cheating is bad when one person in a relationship decides that it's an open relationship when previously, the relationship has been built on trust and honesty about the relationship being monogamous and the cheater hasn't discussed the new rules of the open relationship with their partner.

ManicMicah · 22-25, M

@SW-User Honestly me and my boyfriend have mentioned it, he even flat out gave me permission to see other people...that was a month or two ago? I don't know if things changed since we got more serious though, or if he still feels the same. Kinda hard to talk to him while he's in rehab.

SW-User

@ManicMicah If you've discussed it and agreed upon it, then it's not cheating, it's just an open relationship. Still, it can't hurt to regularly talk about it to make sure the other person hasn't had second thoughts etc.

ManicMicah · 22-25, M

@SW-User When we brought it up a couple months ago, we weren't full on boyfriends, we were just Friends with Benefits. After we established we WERE indeed in a loving relationship, I don't know if the same rules apply. They might. I'll have to bring it up. I'd just hate to do it and worry him while he's away. Urgh.

SW-User

@ManicMicah Yes, if the feelings in the relationship have changed the way you describe then you should definitely talk about it. And if you love that person i'd put off anything with anyone else until you get to talk.

ManicMicah · 22-25, M

@SW-User Alright. And if I do end up doing something with someone, I'll still tell him, I'm honest and blunt anyways, I don't hide shit, I just don't want him to worry. We only have ten minutes to talk on the phone every 5 or 10 days.

Maybe it's just me, but a guy sucking my dick for literally 30 seconds doesn't really seem to me like a big thing to worry about? Meh I don't know.

SW-User

@ManicMicah In a relationship, it's not about how you feel about interacting with someone else but it's about how your partner feels. It's probably why there are so many relationship breakups. Always best to talk first. Sorry you both only get to talk a few minutes every few days, that doesn't sound like it would be good for anyone.