What are the rules for a good husband wife relationship?

I would recommend against rules... because the whole concept of rules will set you up to be watching for when your spouse breaks one of them... and then you will point out their failure to keep the rule to them. A better way is to become a student and servant of your spouse... Learn what they like, and give that to them... pay attention to where they need help, and help them... and love them always, remembering that love is a verb, it is what you choose to do... love is you giving of yourself to them.