Relationships are too stressful

So me and my bf moved put 3 weeks ago and today his mother was goin to come over for lunch for only the 2nd time. She came once before we moved in and hated it saying its like this and that anyways i get up at 6,clean up,mop ,make the place look as pristine as possible and then my bf in an angry moody way tells me he called his mum and told her not to come. I asked him why and he says hes not comfortable.

Our home is not in a great condition we poor but its neat tidy and comfy. We ended up having a huge fight about this and i told him i want to leave and he said if i want to go i can leave. I know he doesnt mean it and says it when hes angry but im getting fed up of him and his mother issues. BTW his mum is a nightmare

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Underconstruction · F

Pack your bags and leave. Stop rationalizing his behaviour.

Clairessa09 · 31-35

@Underconstruction I have nowhere to go. No money or job. I got a small business and i had a hell of a relationship wid my parents. They put me thru hell and my father left us with nothing. I also suffer with chronic anxiety. 😢

Underconstruction · F

@Clairessa09 That´s a difficult situation but perhaps it´s life telling you to search for your future happiness elsewhere. Start today.

Clairessa09 · 31-35

@Underconstruction I dont know how and wher. After everything i went through this year im like an emotional wreck. Im finsished and have no words to describe how i feel. Just no peace

Underconstruction · F

@Clairessa09 Maybe a talk with a counselor or someone from an organization that helps women in your situation would help. Just don´t get stuck in the same miserable rut. You don´t sound happy.

Clairessa09 · 31-35

@Underconstruction ive never been happi for a very long time. This guy has done so much for me and been thru alot with me. He never cheated on me or abused me once. Just livin together doesn seem to work out. Every weekend we argue and we dint talk to each other.

I mean why do u think he told his mother to not come?and the only reason is he dont feel comfortable. What does that mean

Underconstruction · F

@Clairessa09 I don´t know what that means. You have to talk to him but he obviously doesn´t want to. In any case, good luck with whatever path you choose to take.

Clairessa09 · 31-35

@Underconstruction he jus told me to respect his choice and hes nt comfortable with the house right now