Why are older men wary of me?
I prefer older men, but when I flirt with them they look at me with suspicion. I thought being younger would be to my advantage, but it actually seems to scare them away.
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perceptivei · 36-40, F
I wouldn't intentionally flirt with an older man. Let him come to you. They will. Without a doubt. That is, if you're still young. I used to like older men when I was young, too. They always came to me though. I was too shy to flirt for real (drinking doesn't count).
I wouldn't let them know you're actually seeking out an older man though. Because, why try that hard? You're either looking for money or guidance. Abusive men are really the only older men who actually prefer that type of relationship. Most people want someone they can relate to. Someone who has experienced as much as them. There's a reason people make those comments about men who are with women half their age. It is nasty. Because, that means they're with them for sex. That is all. Or, they're with them for sex and the fact that they will have the upper hand, an advantage. Generally, the only men who are interested in dating (real relationship not just fucking) a young woman is a man who needs that control and power. If a man can control what you learn in life, he has the ultimate authority and power over you. Abusive men rely on that. So, unless you want to be in a very, very bad situation, I suggest waiting until you mature before you look for someone twice your age. Depending on your life circumstances and experiences, you might be able to relate to an older man ***who appreciates a woman for who she is*** before you know it! Although, I wouldn't wish that on my worst enemy.
Good luck to you all!
I wouldn't let them know you're actually seeking out an older man though. Because, why try that hard? You're either looking for money or guidance. Abusive men are really the only older men who actually prefer that type of relationship. Most people want someone they can relate to. Someone who has experienced as much as them. There's a reason people make those comments about men who are with women half their age. It is nasty. Because, that means they're with them for sex. That is all. Or, they're with them for sex and the fact that they will have the upper hand, an advantage. Generally, the only men who are interested in dating (real relationship not just fucking) a young woman is a man who needs that control and power. If a man can control what you learn in life, he has the ultimate authority and power over you. Abusive men rely on that. So, unless you want to be in a very, very bad situation, I suggest waiting until you mature before you look for someone twice your age. Depending on your life circumstances and experiences, you might be able to relate to an older man ***who appreciates a woman for who she is*** before you know it! Although, I wouldn't wish that on my worst enemy.
Good luck to you all!
