When you care about someone

Do you find that you care less about that person if the caring is not reciprocated?
If the person is emotionally unavailable or just doesn’t seem to have the emotional intelligence to care about someone other than themselves - are you able to stop caring about them?
Is it all the caring just a waste of time?

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BlueMuse · F Best Comment

The act of "caring" or "giving" is not meant to be for the reward. If it is true in nature, it is because one has a genuine need to help, or care or give to another. So the other persons lack of an appropriate response to the care, love or help given, in hindsight speaks volumes on the support that they likely need.

Unsatisfiedstace · 51-55, F

@BlueMuse I have always thought that too...and then sometimes particular friendships seem to tilt and you find that the other half of the equation doesn’t ask you anything about how you are or doesn’t seem to think of you at all.
I suppose it all comes down to having no expectations.
Just wondering if you find that the extent of your caring then wanes a bit.
Some people just seem to lack empathy or are not able to see beyond themselves I think. We are all so different.

BlueMuse · F

@Unsatisfiedstace you had it at "no expectations". The second that we as people expect something, be it a reaction, gesture, comment or such, we leave ourselves open to disappointment. All that you can do in this life, is what is right by your moral code. If that is helping someone, then do it. If it is looking the other way then do that. As you said " We are all so different", and we are, we all have are own code. We just can't expect others to share it.

Unsatisfiedstace · 51-55, F

@BlueMuse 🙏 thank you.

BlueMuse · F

Anytime :)