I'm sorry. I witnessed my parents divorce, and it was messy shit.

So damned difficult.

I had endured occasinal mental abuse for a while [10 years], and thought he was long past teetering on physical abuse [as many years since an incident] but when he threw the steaming hot rice cooker at my feet because he was mad about me going to a concert with my best friend [male] some months prior, that was it.
That was probably 4 years ago. 3 couples and each individual therapists and we're no closer to divorce. I still want out. He uses custody threats on me and knows I will do what is best for our kid. He would make my life [and indirectly hers in doing so] literal hell if the decision to split isn't his.

So I wait until I can afford to cut and run. Almost last summer then I had a horrible accident and couldn't walk for some months.

I don't want more than 50/50 custody. He wants full [I cannot for our kids sake let that happen]. I don't want the house, neither of us can afford it solo. It can't be sold as is. Can't afford a lawyer and I guess I'm too fiscally responsible to go into debt over this. The abuse has subsided again with therapy and I am safe. I just can't forgive/forget. Emotionally, I moved on, fell in love with someone else, but it could never work until I was divorced so my paramour and I moved on [mostly].




I'm glad to hear you got out. It gives me hope.

I have not decided to get divorced (still married after almost 32 years).

Happy to hear you got out! I realized I made a misstake on our honeymoon, but tried for 5 years before we seperated. Thankfully we had no children together and were divorced at the 9 year mark.

What a waste of wedding cake.

Wow. Marriage terrifies me

After I'd tried my hardest and realised there was no hope

Yep. Been there too but I’m happy and single now

...after I found out he's a psychopath after my money!

When she told me "I want out" despite me moving heaven and earth to please her.

Wow. I am sorry, that was hell..Was that an arrange marriage?