Why do people do this after marriage/long term relationships?

They meet the partner who has a job lets say in law enforcement, or any other job that may require them to travel alot, etc...or lets say a STRIPPER!

That person had that job BEFORE they met and BEFORE they decided to get together. Then once they are together, the other partner wants them to leave that job.

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Miram · 31-35, F

Maybe they are scared for them and they couldn't but help fall in love with them. Just talk to her, she will need to learn to trust you.

iMystery · M

@Miram Uhm... I am not in that situation. I just saw it many times. And talking to the other person really does not help from what I have seen.

Miram · 31-35, F

@iMystery I think I will be afraid for his safety if he had that profession and may want to convince him to quit. We don't fall in love with the person's job, most of us. Their job however maybe very important in their happiness and financial security. It wouldn't be fair to act on feelings in that case. You are left with two options, to stay and learn to cope with your feelings or to walk away because you can't handle it.

Yes, it is selfish to pressure them.

iMystery · M

@Miram Well said... but remember that the job came first before your fears for his safety. So why get into a relationship in the first place if the job is going to be an issue.

Miram · 31-35, F

@iMystery Probably because love clouds judgement. And maybe they thought they can handle it.