Why do people do this after marriage/long term relationships?

They meet the partner who has a job lets say in law enforcement, or any other job that may require them to travel alot, etc...or lets say a STRIPPER!

That person had that job BEFORE they met and BEFORE they decided to get together. Then once they are together, the other partner wants them to leave that job.

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SW-User

This happened to me. I worked as a musician on a cruise ship, but then met my partner and suddenly i had to give up music as it meant traveling all the time. So then i had to retrain, and then suddenly having no income wasn't popular either. It was a difficult time.

iMystery · M

@SW-User In the end you probably end up splitting up then you ask yourself was it really worth it giving it up, just to end up with nothing any way?

SW-User

@iMystery I'm in that situation now :(

iMystery · M

@SW-User Yeah not a good place to be in my friend. For that reason I decided to take back full control of my life and have NO ONE interfere.

SW-User

@iMystery Good move. I have it now but it's far too late and has come at a huge price.

iMystery · M

@SW-User Bro... believe me when I say I feel you.

I used to sing... then got involved with someone... got married and she did not like the attention I got and became very jealous and gave me an ultimatum: Singing or Marriage...

I gave up the singing... not long down the line she leaves after having an affair.

NOT worth it. I will not make that mistake again.

SW-User

@iMystery Sorry that happened to you. I can relate.

For me she wanted a guy who made good money who was popular. Then she wanted me to give up what she liked about me.

So then when i wasn't popular and wasn't making good money, i lost attraction to her in her eyes.

So i got an office job and settled down and became what she wanted and ultimately despised me for it, then left me.

iMystery · M

@SW-User Well we can only learn from this.

SW-User

@iMystery Yes, that's very true and hopefully thing will ultimately work out for the best.