If you stay dating someone
Are you obliged to tell them about your depression/anxiety/personality disorder?
Should you anyway? Would you?
Should you anyway? Would you?
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Eurydicekallos · 26-30, F
Not obligated to no...but I think you should
It helps them know what to expect, possibly how to help you or not say to make it worse, help avoid problems from them just assuming something wrong that isnt...like if you get in a bout of depression and not feeling like talking...instead of them thinking you are bored of them or avoiding them for some crazy reason they are more likely to understand.
Like if my boyfriend never explained to me that he can become really uncaring and cold when upset...i would think I did something horribly wrong or he doesnt love me anymore...now I know that he just needs to be told that ill be here when he is ready and to let him sort out his emotions...
And me explaining to him how when im depressed I dont feel like being touched or talk much...he knows not to try hug me to have me feel better or if I suddenly leave the room its because i need reboot and not just ignoring him.
It helps them know what to expect, possibly how to help you or not say to make it worse, help avoid problems from them just assuming something wrong that isnt...like if you get in a bout of depression and not feeling like talking...instead of them thinking you are bored of them or avoiding them for some crazy reason they are more likely to understand.
Like if my boyfriend never explained to me that he can become really uncaring and cold when upset...i would think I did something horribly wrong or he doesnt love me anymore...now I know that he just needs to be told that ill be here when he is ready and to let him sort out his emotions...
And me explaining to him how when im depressed I dont feel like being touched or talk much...he knows not to try hug me to have me feel better or if I suddenly leave the room its because i need reboot and not just ignoring him.