Why do people cheat?

Poll - Total Votes: 19

I've cheated

I've never cheated

I've done stuff that some people would consider cheating

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I really don't understand why. If you don't love your girlfriend/wife boyfriend/husband enough. Why don't you just leave them? And if they don't give you the satisfaction that you need, why don't you talk about it and try to make it better. Why hurt someone so much? Is it because you just don't care? Or cuz you don't want to care?

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Tatsumi · 31-35, M

For women, they wanna keep the good stuff they get from their boyfriend or husband, but want some better or different sex. As for why not just try to work it out, that takes effort. And generally, women don't like to play teacher. They want the guy to know how to please her, already. And if a super hot alpha guy comes along and stimulates and excites her, while she's grown accustomed and bored with her husband/bf, it can make it tempting.

There's also an instinctual driver that makes it beneficial for her to stay with the bf/hubby while bearing a better man's child. He may be dedicated to her, while the other man may just have better traits to pass on.

For men, they just generally want to fuck 80% of the women on Earth. So, it's more a matter of giving into instinct. That desire doesn't leave when they fall in love, like it sometimes does with women. A guy will always want other women, on an instinctual level. The genetic programming to "spread the seed".

The dick has a brain of its own, which is separate from the guy's heart and mind. That's the best way to think of it.

You can't understand it, unless you've been in that situation. It's not a rational decision. It's temptation. It's an impulse thay has to be resisted. It's just weakness and selfishness. It's the animal nature we all have.

I have cheated before, and it was just heat of the moment. It was just too hard to resist.

Tellica · 22-25, F

@Tatsumi I honestly think you're weak. It's funny how you kind of justify cheating by men saying that it's their instincts. A true man has got a brain. And doesn't need to listen to their 'instincts'

Tatsumi · 31-35, M

@Tellica Think what you like.

I never justified anything. I explained basic nature.

But I will share this little tidbit. Doctor Steven Novella, a neuroscientist--along with most other neuroscientists--know that the frontal lobe's [the thinking part of the brain, the "you" part--'s main purpose is simply to justify baser instincts from the amygdala.

Humans are animals. We're driven by instinct significantly more than rational thinking. 99% of people, like you for instance, are driven by virtually nothing but animal instinct.

Look it up. Do some research. It's only when you understand that that you can transcend basic instincts. Not before.

But like I said. Think what you like.

Tellica · 22-25, F

@Tatsumi Studies still remain studies. You're your own human being. I know I wouldn't be able to ever cheat.

Tatsumi · 31-35, M

@Tellica Our entire world is based off of studies. The reason we can communicate like this is because of studies.

And I know you easily would, under the right circumstances. The very fact that you believe you are immune to it makes you infinitely suseptible to it. Complacent.

Tellica · 22-25, F

@Tatsumi I only can get intimate with a person I have a deep and emotional connection with. I could never hurt someone I love. And I would never be in a relationship with someone if I didn't love them. I know I can provide for myself in the future. But having my love by my side to share a part of my life with is literally all I will ever need.

Tatsumi · 31-35, M

@Tellica You're so ignorant and naive, that it literally hurts me.

Tellica · 22-25, F

@Tatsumi Wanna talk about it?

SW-User

@Tatsumi She's young and she doesn't know people change and everything becomes so complicated. We change and so as our desires/needs and all that innocence/naivety becomes a thing of the past. No one understands this before their time and it's probably late

Tellica · 22-25, F

@SW-User Who asked you to join the convo. Get lost.