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Is this cheating?

Let's just say last year in April, i was talking and seeing a guy. We were a 'thing' but we didn't exactly have a label b/c we weren't official. But we obviously liked each other a lot and we were just in that talking stage -- the stage before you become boyfriend & girlfriend. But while i was "talking" to the guy, i began seeing another guy at the same time. they don't know each other (they still don't know that i was with both) and we began having feelings for each other as well... and doing stuff together. i was basically seeing 2 guys at the same time without their acknowledgment. i've been reflecting on this for a while...was this cheating? i mean, i wasn't in a official relationship or anything with either but i did have some sort of relationship with both. its weird.
MellyMel22 · F
I wouldn’t feel comfortable knowing a guy I was seeing did that 😕
There was no one being cheated on, so, no. No promises were made. You can see whom you like. At one time, this was refereed to as dating. You can date more than one person.
Technically not cheating but maybe morally wrong.

Your in your early twenties I mean you should be exploring others and yourself.

I've been there and done that with women in my twenties and have no regrets.

If your looking for advice maybe take this away from my comment don't be bothered at all, you weren't committed and really did you plan on spending the rest of your life with one of these guys??

Be free and enjoy what the world has to offer! You'll never know what you really want.

Now don't go breaking hearts because that's just a dick thing to do just be upfront and honest.
alan20 · M
I was on the receiving end of a similar situation although she told both of us about the other. So I wouldn't call it cheating; I was studying hundreds of miles away and for a long time we had lived for each other. So many extenuating circumstances I could never find it in my heart to blame her. It caused her and I a massive amount of heartbreak so I wouldn't recommend it.
Sapio · 51-55, M
Dishonest and disloyal to a degree, I would've not continued if I was either one of those guys.

That being said, do I wrong you for it? No, life is about experiences and while I comment, I do not judge. Every experience teaches us something.
TallJames · 46-50, M
Was not cheating but it was pretty dishonest. You should ha e told the new guy first. If he was ok with it then you should have told the current guy. By with holding this info you basically doomed both relationships.
JennyGa · 46-50, F
I don’t think so. It wasn’t anything official so I wouldn’t call it cheating
SW-User
If there was a steady dating on both guys, it's not cheating but it's like being a player.
ozgirl512 · 26-30, F
Nope... The more people in your life the easier it is to find the right one!
sighmeupforthat · 46-50, M
Oh wow... to be part of someone's grocery list..

No thanks.
Muskie78 · 61-69, M
Nope not cheating
carsonfry · 22-25, M
Yeah, time to pick one.
redback · 51-55, M

 
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