Need your opinion - Am friends with a married man whom I met online

He has conditions about me texting him - should correspond only during working hours on weekdays. That too he is often busy with work. No messages once he reaches home - if is not like I send anything obscene, just normal conversation. Even if I send him a text in the evening he will not reply.
Strictly no texting during weekends.
He went on a 3-week vacation to visit his daughter in Singapore. Absolutely no contact.

Would you continue with such a “friendship” or drop it? He’s afraid of hurting his wife - that’s why all these “rules”. I’m not even his lover, just a friend. Is it worth it? Am I losing my self respect?

What would you’ll do?

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sarahcupcake · 36-40, F

I am sorry to sound unhelpful or harsh but... I'd never have any sort of relationship with someone already in a relationship under any circumstances. I appreciate that in your view it's some sort of friendship but apparently he doesn't.....

So... this is what I'd do. I'd ask around and find him the best counsellor I can and put him in touch... in the hope that he gets in touch both with reality and himself

solitaire · 41-45, F

That is ok. Not harsh - he is almost 2ce my age and manages his own company. An ex military man - no way he’s going to any counselor. I merely see him as a mentor

sarahcupcake · 36-40, F

Well...I'm not joking when I say, Solitaire, just be careful. I really mean that :) @solitaire

solitaire · 41-45, F

🤗. I shall keep contact to a minimum going forward

sarahcupcake · 36-40, F

Phew... I am smiling... yayyyy... you deserve nice friends :) @solitaire