Which should I choose?

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Summer institute

Mental health

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So my girlfriend is in college studying special education and this weekend she is going to what’s known as “summer institute” where in order for her to get a scholarship she has to attend it, if she doesn’t she will owe the school a lot of money, however she is making me choose between that and her seeing a therapist for some mental health issues and I can only pick one and whichever I choose she will forego the other so which should I pick?

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Mildreadful · F

Personally I reckon the scholarship wins on this one, because owing the school a lot of money won’t help her mental health all that much anyway. I think the therapist would agree tbh and hopefully that appointment can be rearranged anyway but in the end this should be her choice

Noonesingslikeyouanymore · 26-30, M

@Mildreadful she isn’t seeing one right now, she’s making me choose between the scholarship and seeing a therapist in the future but I can only choose one

Mildreadful · F

@Noonesingslikeyouanymore ah sorry. That’s a bit more difficult but why can’t she do both?

Noonesingslikeyouanymore · 26-30, M

@Mildreadful she doesn’t want to, I want her to but she doesn’t

Mildreadful · F

@Noonesingslikeyouanymore it doesn’t really make sense since they aren’t really related things. I’d still say the scholarship wins but really the best people to ask are people that know her and know what will benefit her more long term

LadyGrace ·

@Noonesingslikeyouanymore You can ease into that later. Pushing her will only make her resistant to therapy at all. Work on that later. However, I wouldn’t think about marriage until he gets good help and most importantly, finishes the therapy, but do not mention this, whatever you do. Think about that as a goal for later. Keeping her mind busy with positive things will really help her. Your support means a lot to her.